Wednesday, August 06, 2014
Tuesday, August 05, 2014
It's been a long while since i last post here. More than a year! And with long gaps in between. Yes i do miss my Buddhaha blog. As i walk thru my posts it does bring back memories.
I never thought writing dairies is that valuable and fun. I first started writing is to, yup - practise writing and keep abreast of the Internet world.
I hope i can continue to find time to write here. And definitely hope this blog stays here forever though i believe in impermanence. ; )
Tuesday, April 02, 2013
I've been thinking of principles to guide me along in life and work. There are many. From many self-help books or gurus to the ultimate teacher Buddha himself. Some examples - think win-win, have compassion and wisdom, whole is greater than the sum of its parts, understand cause and effect, and do right things right.
So you see, whenever i'm faced with a situation, many good principles come to mind. But sometimes i wished there is one really 'powerful' one i could use especially when you are kind of rush. ;P
Guess it has been in my hardworking subconscious mind. Then finally a realization came. An enlightenment.
The answer that came was not something unknown to me. It is the word Impermanence. It is in fact a core teaching of Buddha. Perhaps it never got internalized to an extent. And i never realize that it can be used as THE Principle! Not sure if anyone understand when i say 'the principle'.
Can you imagine from today whenever you are faced with a situation and you are suddenly lost of which principle(s) to guide you, and you just use Impermanence principle. If you truly understand the meaning of impermanence you will likely know the answer to your problem. At least know how to react.
A quick note of my own understanding of impermanence in the context of Buddhist teaching. Nothing last forever. Someday and not knowing which day we will all die. Since we will all die, it means there is a change. So change is natural. With change, something must have occur. A reaction of sort. So there is a cause and effect. The root cause may be far from here, but there is still a cause. Back to nothing last forever. So shall anger. So there is no need to be angry as it shall come to pass. And therefore we shall be careful of our action or reaction cause causality comes to play. Since nothing last forever, we shouldn't be too emotional attach to the things we owe. Life is simply too short for unhappy stuff. ; )
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Being detach in Buddhist term is just the knowledge of knowing the pros and cons of being attached. Being detach also means we become more objective as we don't allow emotion to come in between our minds. And finally being detach also means it's harder to get angry with things and people.
So there are many benefits in practicing detachment. But it has to begin with understanding of what detachment actually means in Buddhism and in practice.
"Work as if you are going to stay forever, but plan as if you are going to leave tomorrow."
So, do you think it has some truth? Somehow it makes me feel more fulfilled, kept me busy & moving forward, and not rest on my laurels.
While some may think it's a bit of a conflicting mindset, it is precisely this. If you have read my post on holding two conflicting ideas or thoughts, you will know what i mean. But seriously, i looked at it as a balanced mindset instead. A positive one and one having the right attitude.
What do you say?
Thursday, January 24, 2013
Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory. - Albert Schweitzer
Far too many people these days think that happiness and success is wealth. And then far too many people will realize the truth many years later, and usually after they fell ill, broken relationships and/or gone broke due to business failure or bad investment choice. By then, it may be too late for some.
To be clinical, there are different types of happiness. Absolute or relative happiness. Relative happiness is short-term, like buying your long-waited latest model of iphone. This gives you an instant gratification that perhaps you didn't experience for quite a while.
Sunday, July 22, 2012
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
I think this is a good way to remind oneself on understanding life.
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Saturday, April 21, 2012
Well, you will think that one should never let an enemy any chance of getting back at you in the future. And that's true. But there are plenty of situation why you wouldn't want to destroy him or her either.
So how do you win gracefully?
One way is to give or lend them a "ladder" to climb down. In other words, provide a means for him or her to back down, out or off without them feeling threatened or too embarrassed. If they know they have lost, they will appreciate your kind gesture.
To help explain, let me share a story about a friend who was threatened with a lawsuit that accused her of infringing a reputed businessman copyright. After one look at the so-called threatening email i told her that the businessman has no case - there's no infringement to speak of. So together we drafted a reply email clarifying why we believe we didn't do anything wrong and proceed to praise his contributions to the industry and even said we admired his products - while we speak the truth, we also had to lower my ego & pride. Most importantly, we ended the reply saying that it probably is a misunderstanding. Within a day of our respond, he replied that it was indeed a misunderstanding and promptly closed the case. Now, did you see the invisible ladder we gave him? Well, if you didn't, 'misunderstanding' is the ladder.
Like any wise men, it's better to have one less enemy than to add one more!
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Thursday, May 05, 2011
Sunday, April 03, 2011
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Now I focused on the 3 Ls. They are learning, living & loving. Allow me to share more.
Learning - I seek more knowledge these days. Not sure why it makes me happier whenever I learned something new or re-learned the old. I don't mean you must take up a degree or some sort of a course. You can go library to borrow books, read some magazines or surf the web! As long as you learn something, it's an achievement! And do read broadly - outside your familiar subjects. I started to read about dogs and its training and found certain very interesting fact which i never realised such as how a simple technique can train a dog to sit by command within a day! I did it with my puppy! ; )
Living - I've learned to take time off to smell the grass and fresh air.. Though I think I'm still learning about living.. Simple yet elusive at the same time. Maybe i'm born and had lived in City for too long - it's not easy to so-called live, be present. I kept thinking of what's next to do or think. Always keeping myself busy! But what am i busy with really? Now, i treasure low work activity periods as it gave me time to catch up on myself, my family and friends. Work-life balance is now a reality, if not my aim - it takes hard work and discipline to make it work though. I paid more attention to planet earth. I travel more, to see the world. And most importantly, be present and do things i'm passionate about.
Loving - Sometimes people forgot how to love anymore. Loving yourself, loving your spouse and loving your loved ones all take time and effort. Very often we forgot about them and bury ourselves in work, thinking that bringing home the bacon is its sole aim. As i a to live, i begin to reflect about my love ones. I realised that loving your love ones is not the end. If compassion is the way to go, even people you dont know deserve some care and concern too. I start to look at this world thru a different lens. Every one deserves some love and compassion.
It would be deceiving if i told you i've mastered the 3 Ls. And it's the fun part that it takes a lifetime to master. Enjoy this 3 Ls journey and life will likely be a happier one.