The new attitude to work

Some years ago, i had a realisation which till today i still subscribe to it and still believe it is the right attitude towards work.. especially if you are working for other people. Here it goes:

"Work as if you are going to stay forever, but plan as if you are going to leave tomorrow."

So, do you think it has some truth? Somehow it makes me feel more fulfilled, kept me busy & moving forward, and not rest on my laurels.

While some may think it's a bit of a conflicting mindset, it is precisely this. If you have read my post on holding two conflicting ideas or thoughts, you will know what i mean. But seriously, i looked at it as a balanced mindset instead. A positive one and one having the right attitude.

What do you say?

Rich & Poor Attitude

There's a big difference 

between a poor person's attitude - 

wishing you had it -

and wealthy person's approach -

believing you'll get it.

from Andrew Matthews

Sometimes Attitude song

Sometimes you wake up
On the wrong side of bed
You knew someone will be
Hurt by what you said
It’s time to do something
To change the way
You’ll be a happier person
To be with..

[hum the rhythm]

It’s not that difficult
As it seems
Only a little patience
And a plan to go with
Add a little support
Here and there
You’ll see
Sunshine.. and all smiles..

notes: Sometimes Attitude is inspired by JW. Not tat she has lots of attitude.. just sometimes! ;P It's also the first time i used the macbook's garage software to create.. yup, just bought my very first macbook! ;-) and oh.. to give justice to JW.. she's actually one of my best mentee, excellent collegaue/co-worker & most trustworthy friend!! ;-) i wish her well in whatever she wants to do.. Blessings.

Stay positive @work

3 Ps & getting a life. Ref: Straits Times pg R32.

How do you counteract negativity in your workplan.

1st P - is it personal?
When your boss is in a bad mood & scolded you the whole morning.. When one of your seemingly neutral comments became the focal point of an argument, it may have nothing to do with you. They're just in bad mood and u happen to be there. When your boss comment abt the poor results, he may be talking abt the process or external factors beyond your control, and not abt your poor management skills.
In fact, in most cases, people are more worried about themselves and more interested about themselves than you. It's sad but true.

2nd P - is it permanent?
"This too shall pass" expression is so true! And "there's light at the end of the tunnel". It almost always happen. ;-)
Just look back at your life and you know that somehow you will just get out of a tight situation.
Like life itself, nothing stays permanent. So dont worry so much. All shall pass.

3rd P - is it the big picture?
"What's the worst scenarios?" ask yourself. In most or all cases, you wont die because of it. At most, you loose your job. That's all. And most of the time, it's not that bad afterall..

Get a life.
Work is not the only thing/task in life. Balance your life with work, friends, hobbies and family. Dont keep thinking about work all the time. I'm a victim of this too.. i always think abt my work.. so i'm still learning as well.. Have to keep reminding myself once in a while.. That's whu i'm writing it on my blog here.. ;-)

true, real friends & friends that can click..

last nite i had a dinner with a friend whom we have not meet up for quite a while.. so there was some catching up.. as always we chatted about work, plans, life and love.. she's been single for the past one over year and she seemed lost, aimless.. she said she didnt know what she wants and thus life's a blank at this moment.. Then i asked her if she has any hobby to keep her occupied.. and one of her interests is watching movie.. but she hasnt watch one for a long time not because she cant find a friend to watch with her.. she said she prefer to watch it with someone who clicks with her.. however, she dont have any friend tat clicked with her.. tis really kept me thinking and ponder over the question of what is true or real friends? and about the clicking thingy..

in-retrospect, i think i have a few true friends.. friends who will come to your rescue when u are in trouble.. but most of these friends were made during early school days.. it's hard to find true friends in workplace. Unfortunately, true friends may or may not click with u either.. that is, shared your hobbies or interests.

That said, after filtering true friends and friends that click, we are left with none, or only one or two friends.. no wonder she's feeling down lately. so i asked myself if there's a solution to this.. i realised that the solution is to plant the seeds quite early in life.. it's the seed of friendship and attitude.

We need to build friendship since day one! yes, that requires effort. great effort. we need to show care and concern and not take people for granted. we need to adopt a positive attitude in work and in life and towards people. we have to be sincere and genuine when dealing with people. and people can sense or feel it whether u are genuine or not. and they will response in kind. we dont have to feel despair if today we dont have much friends. we can still begin life anew anytime. its better late than never. change our attitude first. then seek new friends.

like Forrest Gump, life's a box of chocolate. u never know what u gonna get. just go out and give yr life a chance. try to develop your own inner strengths and less dependence on others to provide u happiness. cultivate your own interests. have hobbies that u can do alone e.g. reading a book, swimming, cycling, cooking,.. i never like reading till i was 24.. and started learning cooking only in my 30s.. dont be affected by people that say u are too old to learn.. anytime is a good time. just make sure u have a good time! ;-)