Listening to yourself

Andrew Matthews wrote " If you dont know what you like doing, maybe you stopped listening to yourself years ago".

He was so right! Perhaps i have stopped listening to myself...  ;-(

Time to make the right choice! Nothing is more important than happiness, health and family.  ;-)

Money is essential for survival. But it's not everything.

active listening

just read a short self-improvement article on Active Listening. Most people dont practise active listening skill. everyone is only getting ready to speak their mind while another person is talking.. this is a sad situation.. what has become of this world! i must admit that i'm a culprit too! sigh.. ;-(


the article said that if we would try active listening for once, we will be pleasantly surprised by the outcome! Coz u will be amazed how the other person is as pleasantly surprise by your full attention and they will give you back their full attention when you speak. And dont worry if u will be given air-time to speak.. When u demonstrate respect for others, others will do likewise. However, if u experience a situation where nobody respect anybody, u might as well leave that group and find yourself another one.. ;-)

Four different types of listeners

Extracted from 'Meditating on non-self' by Sister Khema.

Buddha compared listeners to four different kinds of clay.

(i) the first clay vessel is one that has holes at the bottom. If u pour water into it, it runs right out. In other words, whatever u teach that person is useless.

(ii) the second clay vessel is one that has cracks in it. the water seeps out. These people cant remember. Cracks in its understanding.

(iii) the third clay vessel is one that is completely full. So full of views that it cant learn anything new!

(iv) hopefully, we're the fourth kind - empty vessel without any holes or cracks. Completely empty. Ready to learn new things.