The song "Take me out" they performed live on a subway using only iPhones makes them an instant hit on the Internet. It took me a while to find this video after I seen it a while ago. So thought I better keep it somewhere in case I wanna get inspired again. ; )
Sunday, April 22, 2012
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Saturday, April 21, 2012
In winning argument give the loser a ladder
In most cases you would have 'killed' your enemy when you win e.g. court case, quarrel, etc...
Well, you will think that one should never let an enemy any chance of getting back at you in the future. And that's true. But there are plenty of situation why you wouldn't want to destroy him or her either.
So how do you win gracefully?
One way is to give or lend them a "ladder" to climb down. In other words, provide a means for him or her to back down, out or off without them feeling threatened or too embarrassed. If they know they have lost, they will appreciate your kind gesture.
To help explain, let me share a story about a friend who was threatened with a lawsuit that accused her of infringing a reputed businessman copyright. After one look at the so-called threatening email i told her that the businessman has no case - there's no infringement to speak of. So together we drafted a reply email clarifying why we believe we didn't do anything wrong and proceed to praise his contributions to the industry and even said we admired his products - while we speak the truth, we also had to lower my ego & pride. Most importantly, we ended the reply saying that it probably is a misunderstanding. Within a day of our respond, he replied that it was indeed a misunderstanding and promptly closed the case. Now, did you see the invisible ladder we gave him? Well, if you didn't, 'misunderstanding' is the ladder.
Like any wise men, it's better to have one less enemy than to add one more!
Well, you will think that one should never let an enemy any chance of getting back at you in the future. And that's true. But there are plenty of situation why you wouldn't want to destroy him or her either.
So how do you win gracefully?
One way is to give or lend them a "ladder" to climb down. In other words, provide a means for him or her to back down, out or off without them feeling threatened or too embarrassed. If they know they have lost, they will appreciate your kind gesture.
To help explain, let me share a story about a friend who was threatened with a lawsuit that accused her of infringing a reputed businessman copyright. After one look at the so-called threatening email i told her that the businessman has no case - there's no infringement to speak of. So together we drafted a reply email clarifying why we believe we didn't do anything wrong and proceed to praise his contributions to the industry and even said we admired his products - while we speak the truth, we also had to lower my ego & pride. Most importantly, we ended the reply saying that it probably is a misunderstanding. Within a day of our respond, he replied that it was indeed a misunderstanding and promptly closed the case. Now, did you see the invisible ladder we gave him? Well, if you didn't, 'misunderstanding' is the ladder.
Like any wise men, it's better to have one less enemy than to add one more!
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