blame & flames

recently, i read something about blaming.. many of us blame our parents, childhood, teachers or friends for our misfortune, unfortunate past, mis-opportunities or current poor state of affairs. Well, it's often true to a certain extend.

When we were young, we are dependent on the adults for guidance. but adults themselves have a past too. and their knowledge of what's best for u may be limited. so even though they may have tried their best to guide u, it is usually not the best options. So we end up blaming them for the screw up in our life!

U can blame all u want but it's not going to help u move forward and lead a happy life. When u reach the age of over 20 years old and started work having your own income, it's time to stop blaming! It's time that u begin to take full responsibility for your own life! no more excuses. no more blaming. no more blaming others for your poor current state!

Usually when u start blaming people, there's anger.. there's a fire or flame within us. That flame can burn u or save u. coz there're two types of flame. One, burn with hatred and negative energy while the other burn with passion and positive energy. I've been fortunate to convert those flame into the latter - passion and positive energy. The former will only cause u to spiral down further on the wrong path which ultimately will destroy u. The latter builds understanding and passion towards taking right actions. so, be aware of the two flames. choose only one. the latter one. the right one.

blessings.